Missme
Please read what I wrote and don’t take me out of context. You also took me out of context from my previous posts. I really should tell you to reread them. I thought I was clear the first time 2 times but Ill try a 3rd. There’s nothing wrong with telling your friends that you “are in shidduchim and are thus dating” and therefore if on certain nights you won’t answer your phone it will be and should be obvious that you are on a date, I never said you should discuss who what when…just say you are in the dating scene and will not always be available at night. Its normal for girls post seminary age to be dating so if you can’t be straight up with your friends on that and have a simple discussion and get an understanding something is wrong.
As for my posts regarding not discussing past, I said one doesn’t have to disclose what they did in the past. It wasn’t my opinion, it was a psak Halacha, furthermore there was a very good reason not to disclose, if the person is past it and it has no bearing on who he is now and who he will be in the future, then it has no purpose, it will only get in the way of him finding someone normal to marry. One doesn’t have to tell their spouse about every event and stage they went through in their life unless it will enhance the marriage. Such information won’t so its not necessary. We see in the Torah that Hashem altered the truth when telling Avraham what Sarah said regarding him having a child, Hashem wants people to have Shalom Bayis and one may lie for shalom bayis. We also saw Yakov steal the Brachos and alter the truth by that event. Clearly when its necessary and within specific Halachic parameters one may lie.
Lieing to your friend every time you have a date can equal many tens of lies for no reason. I would ask a Rav before going that route. If the lie isn’t mutar it will only distance you from your friends.