Heard this in a class this past week, if you are in need of any yeshuah 2 things are needed – tefillah- the real kind, not the mouthing empty words while wondering what to have for lunch kind. Read the words from a siddur and think about what you’re saying, who you’re speaking to! It can be pretty awe inspiring. The 2nd thing that’s needed is bitachon. Knowing the Creator is your Father in Heaven is an absolute must. These 2 things combined – good tefillot knowing how much Hashem cares about you and how all-powerful he is, is the trick. Realize that you wouldn’t be where you are right now if it wasn’t the absolute best thing for you at the moment. If you can work on having these 2 things consistently, you will feel great. Warning: not as easy as it sounds. It really does have to be worked on.
It’s a pretty personal topic, but my best friend and I can be completely honest with each other. While I concluded I was missing quantity of tefillot (making the time to pray a good amidah more often), she admitted her quality (bitachon) was lacking.
Where can you improve?
I don’t go for segulot so much, I believe more in cheshbon hanefesh, working on your middot (this requires honesty with oneself) and working on your tefillah, which is our primary way of connecting with Hashem. Definitely give tzedakah, and be out there- make sure the local shadchans know you, look your best and smile! It’s so important to smile and keep a positive attitude.
Wishing you all much success.