New2thescene offered ” If you would like, I can gladly call him and let him know that I have referred you to him as you have a family halachik situation and that you will be calling”
and growinggirlresponded “And new2thescene I think I want to take you up on your offer”
May I suggest a more direct approach
Growinggirl, you seem to be pretty good in organizing her thoughts in writing. Here is the contact info for The Star-K Institute for Halacha. Star-K is under the aegis of rabbi Heineman a senior posek in Baltimore, who has undoudbtedly dealt with such cases.
Here is another email address [email protected]. Even though the Mchon Lchoshen Mishpat’s mission is “Monetary Halacha”
you can ask the administrator to pass on your message to Horav Chaim Cohen dayan @ KAJ a world class Posek.
In closing. Just take up the courage and contact any of the Rabbonim mentioned thus far. There is nothing like personal communication