Reply To: Spontaneous date?

the point of such a date is that often times a match is fine on paper, but after 3-4 dates their is still no spark. It may be strange, but a spontaneous date many times changes the fomal atmosphere and creates the needed spark. 25 years ago when i dated, it was accepted in the yeshivisha velt to go on dates to places that were conducive to laughter and fun. ie: shooting arcades – mini golf ect.

Here in israel, all the dates are carbon copies of each other. (meet at a hotel lobby – 44 min later you go on a walk for exactly 46 minutes, and than go home) My daughter claims that for the most part the bochrim themselves are carbon copies of each other, with no independent personality or thoughts. (80% of all conversation is based on what his rav said) Imagine if she would go out with 2 guys who have the same Rav? The conversation would be identical.

She was hoping that maybe by calling the shadchan and suggesting a spontaneous date, that it would create an atmosphere beyond the standard dry and boring she has experienced till now.