Its goal oriented. You are basically interviewing the person for the job of spouse.
You seem to think spouse is a job. A business arrangement. You clean the house and give birth, and I’ll make money or learn.
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It is obvious to me that the emotions which G-d provided us are meant to be used.
Parents don’t love their children by chance, and neither do men love women by chance.
I suppose you think it is all part of the yetzer hara and a real tzaddik has no emotion.