Smart cookie ,Sacrilege, and Wolf
In no place did I express my personal point of view, so comments like shtark, a bit off, and the like are misplaced. I simply am trying to teach the less informed what the yeshivishe point of view actually is. When official (gedolim sanctioned)yeshivishe hashkafah is discussed, terms like romance and ” in love” are not in the vocabulary. If you like the idea of romance , be aware that it is incompatible with yeshivishe hashkafah. As far as romance within marriage is concerned, it is tolerated when absolutely necessary, but it is not a virtuous practice and should be discoraged.
This just so wrong, I don’t even know where to begin.
The Gedolim (such as Rav Moshe, Rav Yaakov, R’ Akiva Eiger, etc.) “romanced” their wives during marriage.
The Stiepler in Iggeres HaKodesh writes how crucial it is to “romance” your wife.
The current generation of Rabbonim and Roshei yeshiva “Romance” their wives.
Either you have no clue, or you are talking about a specific sect (who will not be called out, as I have been warned on it before) that does these things K’neged Halacha.