Aries, did I miss something? When did you become an avail? I am SO sorry for your loss. I recounted the story of our own personal H”P when my father O”H was niftar 17 years ago (Yartzeit is in a couple of weeks).
Hashem enabled him to drive home from a simcha, having had a massive stroke that left him totally paralyzed, and claimed his life 36 hours later. My mom O”H was in the car with him and did not realize he was ill and unable to talk or move and the casr kept on going. Doctors told us later that it was physiologically impossible for him to have driven the car home owing to the massive and sudden brain bleed, and that my mom must have taken over and did not remember. But that did not happen (she never drove at all, and the design of the car would have made it impossible in any case). There is no question in my mind or any of the rabbanim who spoke to us during the shiva, that their arrival at home in one piece was a neis galui. I have many such stories about my dad O”H throughout his life, and have recounted some of them here. It is because of these incidents that I KNOW Hashem is always watching out for us.