WIY, children need consistency. That means that they need good role models in both their home and in their school. AND they do spend more time in school than they do at home. In addition, in most yeshivas these days they rarely teach kibud av v’em, because they literally tell them they don’t have to listen to their parents they have to listen to THEM, they are more important. And kids see the hypocrisy that is before them, whether it is in their home, in their school, in their shul or in front of their home. It has nothing to do with the goyim and the outside influences it is the inside influences in their own daled amos that are turning them off. THEY forget that kids need to be kids. THEY forget that a kid’s job is to make mistakes, so that he can learn from them. Hashem has programmed kids that way. THEY forget that kids are a matanah from Hashem and that WE are supposed to love them unconditionally no matter what. THEY forget that each little gem Hashem gives us needs to be nurtured and polished till they sparkle and shine to their own potential not roughly cut and tumbled till they all look the same. THEY forget that children are like sponges just waiting to absorb what we teach them and show them so why didn’t they teach and show the love for Hashem and his beautiful religion? Why did THEY emphasize mitzvos lo taaseh instead of Mitzvos Aseh? Why did they not show them how to rejoice in simchas hachaim and apply what they learned in the Torah to everyday life to make it viable, alive and current for them? Why did THEY make our children feel that being frum is a burden and a responsibility instead of a privilege?
If you break one leg can you not use the other and still walk? So then if you are missing your hat can you not still daven? If you are late for minyan should you then daven b’yichidus? How come taking off a day from school to be with the family is “bitul Zman Torah” but suspending a child for 3 days for doing something stupid is NOT bitul zman Torah? What lesson is he supposed to learn from that? How come if a boy and girl start to talk to each other the girl is kicked out of school and no other school will take her literally ruining her whole life, while depending who the boy’s parents are, he gets to ride out the wave? Because a boy and girl spoke to each other, that was a good enough reason to throw them out of school and ruin their lives? That was supposed to teach other kids a lesson and keep them from doing it? Did that help or did they keep throwing more kids out? Oh by the way once they were thrown out wasn’t it easier for the kids to speak to each other anyway? So what exactly was the point of that exercise, how did THEY help the kids?
How does holding back a kid’s diploma so he can’t go to college help get the parents to pay the bill? Why not let the kid go on to have a normal life and put a lien on the house? Or let a collection agency go after them after all business is business as the other thread said. Oh that’s not what I meant to say, how does holding a kids transcripts hostage because THEY don’t want the kid to go to college help the kid? I’m drained I’m sure someone else can pick this up.