WellInformedYid:
Well said. A school has an obligation to throw out a kid who is a negative influence on everybody else. Many of the kids who go off the derech do so because of bad friends – if we could stop those bad friends from being in our children’s schools, we would be one step ahead of the game.
abcd2:
“ddear well informed yid. I am sorry but you are wrong. “In most cases if a kid gets kicked out I think it is because the house let it get to the point where the kid is a mess.”
How many kids with issues come from the finest of homes and backgrounds? How many kids have parents that are willing to try any suggestion? How mabny kids rebel without cause?
The answer: Tons!”
True, the parents are not necessarily at fault for having an off the derech kid (after all, Avrahom and Yitzchok both had sons who didn’t quite follow their derech…). However, a school has an obligation to throw out a kid who is having a negative influence on the other students, no matter why that is the case.
miyan gal:
“They would love it if each child were perfect and fit into the imaginary mold they have.”
As WIY explained, each school is usually created to serve certain types of people. If you are not the type that the school is looking for, you can’t blame them for not wanting to accept you. It doesn’t mean that they have anything against you or your type, just that you’re not what they’re looking for.