mw13, a school has an obligation to work with each child they accept and for each child they take schar limud for! Furthermore a school has an obligation to be accountable and responsible for each child under their guidance and care. THAT means that THEY have them during most of their waking hours and i many cases have them more hours than the parents do. THEY are supposed to be able to watch out for signs and symptoms of abuse, neglect and general malaise. They are supposed to notice if children are fairing well or not. AND if parents are not doing what is necessary to help their own children that doesn’t mean that the school washes their hands of them, that means that for those children the school takes on the larger responsibility for them because the parents are NOT for whatever reason that is. The school might have to call in child protective services, the school might have to take the parents to a beis din, or the school might have to get a court order to make sure the child is well taken care of, but the school should NOT turn a blind eye and let the child fend for themselves by throwing them out onto the streets.
If you were in denial that your child had a problem should the school wash their hands of your child or should they be the child’s advocate until YOU came to terms with reality? Should they assign the proper teacher, Rebbe, mechanech to the child who could understand him better and work with him to bring out his potential or should they just ignore him and let the chips fall where they may?