Lets get this straight, it is the schools that created the system that is currently collapsing upon itself. It is the system who told the girls to marry only kollel boys and it is the system who told the boys to stay in kollel and not go to work. WHO DID THEY THINK WILL PAY TUITIONS IN THE FUTURE????? This is the reality of the situation they themselves created. Stop blaming parents for not being able to pay tuition when THEY themselves told them not to work! Stop blaming parents for not wanting to pay for other people’s kids. Stop blaming parents for not wanting to pay for unqualified personnel! Thats just for starters.
Now we are going to keep going round and round with this argument as we do on each thread. What came first the chicken or the egg. It can’t be fixed because the yeshiva system is not going to admit they are wrong and yet the schools keep closing because of lack of funding. But where is there funding supposed to come from? People are fed up with the schools and the system they are running. They no longer wish to support it. Can you hear the voice of the people loud and clear? You created the problem and we are not going to help you continue!
In all honesty, if you keep telling yungerleit that it is not their responsibility to go to work and make a parnasah how do you expect them to pay tuition? How are the Rebbeim supposed to get paid? Which mitzvah is more important? Unless you have a Yissacher/Zevulun contract how are you supposed to handle this?
So now it boils down to the responsibility of the schools to the kids. Do they need to hire qualified mechanchim? Do they need to work with the kids that have issues? Do they need to train their staff? YES, YES, YES, YES!
You can’t use the lack of funds or anything else as an excuse because the schools themselves have set themselves up for failure. It is the system that failed not the students so don’t blame the kids and don’t make excuses for yourselves. YOU chose to promote learning over being responsible husbands and parents. YOU chose to kick children out as examples. YOU chose unbendable rules. YOU chose to hire anyone who needed parnasah rather than qualified individuals who can actually connect with their students. YOU choose to ignore complaints, YOU choose to ignore signs of abuse or neglect. YOU choose to ignore signs of issues and problems and pass the buck. YOU choose to look for excuses to stand behind and wash your hands of the problem.
BUT if a child does well, sparkles and shines, YOU take ALL the credit. The parents had nothing to do with it.