Interesting points everyone. However, the question isn’t why the kid is thrown out as much as how did the parents and/or yeshiva let it get to that point? Regarding the parents, there are many sad reasons why they don’t see it. But the teachers? You want to say that they’re underpaid and under educated? How much the Rebbeim get paid or if it’s on time is a separate issue. But when they choose to go into “chinuch”, they know they wont be getting six figures. (or close to it) As far as education, as a parent, I don’t expect them to have a masters or a phd, but one thing I do expect is that they should have compassion. Don’t treat a kid differently just because he’s not a top student. I expect them to be smart enough to see a problem as it’s developing. If they can’t handle it, notify someone else who can. Instead what do they do? Kick them out of class everyday, have them write “lines”. 1000 times, I will not…yeah that works. When I was in high school thirtysome yrs ago, I wasn’t doing well in gemara and I went to the Rebbe “crying” out for help. His response? “You don’t really want to learn, you wanna, wanna learn”. End of discussion. No suggestions, no nothing. He didn’t have to be paid any better or have a better education to have tried to inspire me even a little bit more (no that line wasn’t enough) No that didn’t cause me to go off the derech at all but I always remember his lack of compassion.
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