“Checking out the girls” cuz maybe one is the RIGHT one means that the whole marriage is based on external qualities instead of what our ancestors have known is the important issue – the internal qualities/neshama of the person you’re marrying. What happens when the girl gains weight during/after pregnancy??? She won’t be the same girl he saw “dressed to kill” at the chassanah when he decided to check her out. Now he’ll probably decide to check out of the marriage himself. Sad to say, but this is probably a strong reason for the growing divorce rate in our circles.
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