Sacrilege
“Most people live for others”
I b’chlal dont know where you pulled that out of.
Well Ill explain. If someone dresses for others, buys their car so others should look, builds their house large and makes a fancy outside so people should look, make fancy simchos because they want everyone to see how rich they are and how classy blah blah blah, accept certain or decline certain jobs based on people’s perceptions, send their kids to certain Yeshivos or BY because of what others will think, (dont send their kids for therapy if they need it because “what will people say/think”)
if guys/girls go to a certain Yeshiva or BY Beis Medrash or Seminary because its “good for shidduchim”, do or dont do certain things because its “good or bad for shidduchim” and make all kinds of life choices based on what others think then they arent living their own lives. They are prisoners. Many people in our frum society are prisoners of “what the neighbors will think.” Their frumkiet is fake and only because of “I dont want to look bad.” Or something similar.
Hey thats how it is if you dont agree you obviously dont see whats going on out there but to a certain extent almost everybody is making choices and doing things influenced by what others perceptions of them will be.
I dont need you to agree when its so obvious.