WIY, Kol Hakovod to you, did you hear me Applaud you? i cried when I read your post. I have disagreed with you many times, but this time, you spoke from your heart and mine. You have eloquently stated what I have been saying for many months now. May Hashem bless you with all good things and may you continue to be a sheliach for Ahavas Yisroel.
There are many mekoros that are brought down. I can remember a few in Hebrew and English:
Al tadin es chavercha ad she tagiah bimkomo!
Don’t judge lest you be judged.
Hashem does not ask us to judge “his” people, he commanded us to love each other and do right by each other. He himself is the ultimate judge and jury. He commanded us to love our friends as we love ourselves, v’ahavta k’reiacha kamocha. It killed me on the “short skirt” discussion that the poster said “so called frum girls” and the moderators allowed that to go through. That was like a knife in my heart. How can one Jew say that about another?
G’mar chasima tova. You are right with this conclusion and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.