Sacrilege
I dont “assume” anything about anyone. I was in Yeshivah, I know what goes on there I know what goes on in Kollel. As a guy, I can tell you the reality. A girl has a much harder time knowing what goes on unless she has a bunch of brothers or cousins who tell it to her the way it is.
I respect people in Kollel but I firmly believe the system is abused and lends itself to abuse. Kollel is a luxury for many today not a sacrifice. Kollel should be a sacrifice. If the kollel families are living on the same standards as the non kollel families, something is wrong.
“You cannot hold an institution accountable for the individual and vice versa.”
Yes you can! Hello, a Yeshivah is supposed to mold its Bachurim and if it fails to do that then it can be held responsible. It obviously depends how many boys fail to be molded. But if one sees that a significant # of guys from x yeshivah are not “mentchen” thats a sign the yeshivah has failed to integrate the messages of mussar into the boys Torah learning in a meaningful way.