I look for someone who is aidel, who seeks closeness with HaShem, who wants to have a large family and bring up children who are yirei shamayim and bnei torah, who is appreciative of the fact that I will have a career so we can live comfortably without her working (IY”H, I will be earning a degree as a CRNA and a degree in Counseling Psychology, so we will not have to worry about making ends meet), but that I will also learn several hours a day, give shiurim, publish, etc., someone who will like to be treated like a malka, with adoration and respect, someone who will want to run the household and make decisions together, with respect for each others’ opinions, someone who will support her in her personal endeavors, and of course, someone who shares similar hashkafos and political beliefs, more or less. Of course, someone who wants to be charitable, do kiruv, gemilas chasidim, have people over for Shabbos, and who will like my special chulent and who will let me cook in the kitchen and help as much as possible with the kids and domestic tasks. Of course, I want someone who is even-tempered, mild-mannered, who appreciates the important things in life (HaShem, maaseh bereshis, children, knowledge, etc.), and who is sincere, honest, and of course, frum, yet open to and respective of the fact that her husband will have a solid career that literally involves saving lives, while also helping and counseling others, and publishing articles, books, shiurim, etc. I daven every day for my bashert, and I know HaShem will provide.
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