Reply To: Shidduchim, What do boys look for in a girl?

I have several acquaintences, who if you asked them this question (what are you looking for in a girl)would answer “a pulse”. If you know them, and are suggesting a shidduch, they trust you are not setting them up with an avaryon, an axe murderer or a phsyco. Ironing out “compatability” and small hashkafic differences is up to the couple, not the shadchan (it is assumed the shadchan would not suggest a shidduch when large hashkafic differences exist). They basicly say, set me up and I will meet the girl and decide if she is good for me, not you. I suspect a lot of people (male and female) would like the system to work that way, but dont want to be the ones marching to a different drummer.