It might be hard to sympathize, but I’m underweight and have had to deal with other things in shidduchim – being suspected of having an eating disorder for example. Despite the fact that anyone who knows anything about eating disorders would know right away that I am as healthy as can possibly be! (I have a healthy body image and do my best to gain weight but it’s genetic, my aunt was the same way and only normalized once she had kids, she’s still slim.)
It’s as hard for me to gain as it is for many people to lose. And it requires me to pay attention to my diet – I have a poor appetite and fast metabolism, and have to make sure that whatever I eat is healthy and high calorie in order to not be malnourished. Under stress I have to be especially careful not to neglect myself.
I just want you to know that not only overweight people have problems, being underweight is just as hard, and I feel like whenever I try to explain it, people invalidate the struggle, like it doesn’t matter because they’ve never dealt with it. Being underweight is not like being too smart – it’s really a dangerous condition and something that is hard to live with! And it hasn’t been an asset in shidduchim for me.
OK thanks for letting me say my piece. Please don’t attack me for this even if you can’t relate.