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Actually its not only hilarious but ridiculous. The shidduch velt is full of terms that people throw around and most people dont use them correctly and everyone thinks it means something else which is probably something that leads to a lot of no shaychis people dating each other.
I think my most recent definition is a possible definition to what MY is. Although now that I think about it the term Modern is a bit of a broad term and can extend quite a distance (to the right) from Yeshivish.
1. I can see it meaning a Yeshivish guy who has good Hashkafos and all that but maybe he will wear colored shirts here and there or has a college degree (from Touro).
2. Although it can also be a Yeshivish guy who “dresses very trendy and fashionable” and is very “worldy” but never went to college but he isnt the biggest learner but he learns part of the day decently and he wears a white shirt and is in a good Yeshivah so he is considered “Yeshivish.”
3. But then I can also see it being a more extreme version of 2 where the guy lives a total lie and he misses seder almost all the time and is never to be found in the “Bais” and he is busy with TV Movies, novels, and hangs out wherever by day and by night. But still wears a white shirt and therefore tries to pass himself off as Yeshivish and only his good friends know that he is a totally empty shell, everyone else thinks hes just not that into learning but he is an otherwise good Bachur.
Now I have another question. Is there a difference between Modern Yeshivish and Yeshivish Modern? Do they mean the same thing or is there a difference? Meaning whats the focus, the Modern or the Yeshivish? Does the order change what the focus is and what it means?
Popa what do you think?