Eclipse, you need to read “the garden of emunah” by Rav Shalom Arush, translated by Rabbi Brody.
I am so sorry for your bad mazel, as we have been through this ourselves as a family, and know what its like.
The only comfort is that as my daughter once said “At least you get to know who your real friends are” and who is worth having for a friend!!!! PPL who are chushev tend to not get passed around the shmutzy news, and even if they catch wind of it, they don’t give it much belief.
Someone said something nice once, that when people talk on you you can be sure you’re doing something right. Its the yetzer hara that stirs things up just when you put your right foot first.
The other side is that as long as you can put your head down at night on your pillow with a clear conscience, knowing your account is truly straight with Hashem and that He is happy with you, that is what counts, cause there is an Abishter in the world and He will protect you from ppl who will try to put deterents in your way.
I know that it can hurt deep inside anyways, though. People don’t realize how much until it happens to them.