Why is it so hard to be a mentch? Is it so hard to say thank you to someone who holds the door open for you?
I know no one here is saying that, but I’m getting a sense that we shouldn’t treat non-Jews nicely!
There is a very broad line in my opinion between being a mentch and then getting close to them.
(And sorry to digress for a sec – i’m not a feminist in the least bit but this does include females as well. Just cuz you guys can’t look at us and whatever doesn’t mean that if we hold the door open for you, you can’t say thank you. Derech Eretz kadma l’torah!)