BP Totty
Im Maskim that its a Miut but the # of casualties are not acceptable. I think part of the issue is the age one sends their child to Israel or specifically the boys because the girls usually all go post 12th grade. Some people send their boys at 17-18 when they are post high school and very vulnerable to negative influences and will get drunk on the freedom and go crazy. If a boy goes at that age he needs to be under supervision be it a the yeshivah keeping close tabs or someone else…
Yes BP Totty, if you hear confirmed reports that your kid is up to no good, as a father you have a responsibility to yank him home so fast it will give him friction burns. You should not leave him there in the status quo. If you think you have a good plan of fixing the problem there (by getting his Rebbe involved…whatever) fine. But most guys once involved in “stuff” are just headed down hill.
Israel for many boys is like Vegas. What happened in Israel stays in Israel. Yet in reality people do know and word gets around…
As for me, I was no Tzaddik but Baruch Hashem I became close to my Rebbie and he helped me immensely.
Just due your due diligence before sending your son and make sure he doesnt get into a bad Dira. If you room with bad guys you are toast.