I will say this, WIY. You do know your facts from the ground level. And the senario you paint, is very, very true. When it comes to using sechel in um, shall we call them, “crucial moments”, men (and drunk bochurim) often leave their sechel at the door.
Is it a miyut? For sure. Is it a concern for parents? FOR SURE!
Like most hot-button issues, no one likes to face them head on, but folks like yourself do a service if only one bochur (or Sem girl)is saved.