The traditional shadchan route will no longer work. There are simply far to many people who need to get married and not nearly enough insane people who are ready to take on the thankless job of being a shadchan.
It’s high time shadchanim (and anyone else who dabbles) is rewarded for their efforts even when a couple doesn’t get engaged.
A Shadchan can NOT get anyone engaged. Due to the NASI’s projects access to many shadchanim they were offered on more than one occasion 50k to get a specific girl engaged.
Their response
“Give it to G-D, HE’S the only one who can get your daughter engaged, unfortunately (for you) HE doesn’t care about your money”
All a shadchan can do it get girls/boys attention, quality dates. a few quality dates and most are engaged.
When shadchanim (and regular people) are treated as successes for getting a couple to date #2/date #4, then far more people would be involved.
So long as you are (treated as) a failure unless they get engaged,,, well then we will continue to only have a handful of borderline insane people who willingly subject themselves to failure, abuse and harassment….
When shadcanim are truly appreciated and compensated (it’s actually very very cost effective as proven by the Montreal Project) for their tireless efforts, time commitment, and total dedication, we will have a army of people ready to get involved.