cshapiro
As much as its the guys job to “chase” after the girl, the girl should not hide her feelings from the guy. From your post it sounds like you view dating as some kind of game. Its not a game. You are trying to find the person for happily ever after. Its the person you will be most intimate with on every level and you should express your love and feelings for the other in an open manner. If you are “falling” for someone who you dont think is right for you then use your seichel and keep it to yourself and break it off. Its very easy for people to “crush” on someone who is very attractive and charming of the opposite gender even when deep down you know they are so wrong for you. Girls, you have to learn how to not let your heart lead your head in dating. Once things check out and you think he is the one you can express your feelings.
At least this is my opinion. I hope the person that I one day marry will be open and will have no problem expressive her warmth love and affection for me.