The gemara in the beginning of Sotah asks a question that we find two seemingly contradictory statements: 1) That 40 days before the fetus is formed a voice calls out saying whom he will marry; and 2) That making a shidduch is as difficult as splitting the sea. Now surely one could speculate and say different answers or reasons why it isn’t a question, BUT, the gemara answers by saying “ha bezivug rishon ha bezivug sheini”; that is, the 40 days thing is only for the first zivug, while a second marriage requires such difficulty to arrange being that it is not ‘bashert’, at least not in that sense. I think one could infer from this gemara that there aren’t two ‘basherts’ for one person. I don’t know why that would make any difference in the quality of the relationship though, and don’t see from the gemara that it would.
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