Where does it say that if you have an employee who is gay you need to fire him?
Where does it say you need to kick him out of the army?
Where does it say you need to hate him? Chataim v’lo chot’im- Buddy.
All you have shown is that it is an aveira to engage in the act, even a serious one.
Do you fire your Jewish employees if they don’t keep shabbos? Do you hate them?
Would you fire someone and kick them out of the army if they were married to their mother-in-law’s mother? (Also one of the arayos- eim chamoso)