You have to understand something. Everyone marries THEIR prince charming. It might not seem like Prince Charming to someone else but to the one he marries, he is IT and then some!
Take a walk outside and see who Hashem puts together. You will have to agree with me that Hashem has a very interesting sense of humor. In many, many cases you would never have thought of putting most of those couples together just on appearances alone. So that just goes to prove that appearances is not the number one priority!
So what is really important? You have to do a real din v’chesbon here and check your own needs and values, and that is what you don’t compromise on. If you are just starting out and you really want to be a Kollel wife/man, you will not be happy if that need isn’t met. On the flip side, if you really want your husband to support you, you will resent having to work and support a learning boy. If you are older in shiduchim, your needs change and you can compromise your earlier wants. But the basic values stay the same.