Sometimes it’s hard to return to a previous state of t’mimus…one of the reasons their system still works is because of the high level of tzniyus the TRUE-BLUE chassidim (not the confused ones) maintain all along.
When boy meets girl,it’s truly exciting,and when wise parents have input,it helps.(by “wise”I mean without selfish agendas)It’s hard to imitate that success without the same preliminaries in place.Not impossible,just more challenging.I am litvish,but I respect the REAL chassidim.