I feel for you. My husband is in IT also and is out of work and we have a large family and tuitions to pay and food and clothing plus we are making a chasuna. First get on all the programs if you have little kids under 3 you can get WIC and then there are food stamps tomche shabbos and child health plus all this helps but it is not the real answer. I suggested to my husband to go to lawyer and doctor offices who need an IT person but not on a steady basis and let them know you are looking for more customers and give them a card.
Families in IT should have a support group, I know so many that were hit very hard. I feel your pain. I dont know your situation but for us I was a stay at home mom but I had to go out and get a job but we couldnt afford babysitting so I opened a store and when ever I have to go into the city that day my husband will watch it is not ideal but we need to pay our bills.
Hatzlocha and I will keep you in mind when I daven.
P.S. I forgot to mention that my husband has an ad running in our local jewish paper to fix private peoples computer or to get rid of viruses ect.