artchill —
Never heard of asking for 100K before the first DATE,
but have heard of 50K before the CHASUNA.
Personally, my answer would be “See Ya, hatzlacha, have a nice life…” Even if I had that kind of $$$, the idea of that level of ego, of chutzpah, would immediately tell me this person is NOT for my daughter, not what I want to be the father of my grandchildren!
MY question is…
How many “kollel couples” are really willing to live with the misiras nefesh to REALLY BE a kollel couple???
I knew REAL kollel families in Yerushalayim that shared 1/2 a chicken for Shabbas (and chicken was ONLY for Shabbas!), dressed in clothes from gemachs, with furniture from gemachs, etc., etc., etc. AND – they were OK with living that way because they were fully prepared to be mosair nefesh to have the full-time learning life.
Here, most “kollel couples” want to live the life style of working couples, on the cheshbon of parents. Parents who are getting older and would like to work LESS, but have to work MORE, because otherwise they are looked down at, as people who are not “machsheev Torah”.
OK, I’m going to stop here because I feel my blood pressure rising…