Coffe fan:
Since when do people have a right to call shadcahnim at all hours of the day and night to ask for their assistance in shidduchim? And I mean, ALL hours.
Since when do shadchanim (who don’t take money up front) owe anyone anything?
Since when do people have a right to go over to prevent shadchanim from ever enjoying a simchas by approaching them one after another after another to introduce them to their daughter etc….?
Clearly the present system is broken.
Realize shadchanim (who don’t take money up front) owe you absolutely NOTHING.
Realize that the shadchanim who take $150 up front (some organizations), is simply to put you on their database and they will try. They offer nothing more nothing less. (They should say so up front).
It’s your decision if you do or do not want to pay them for that. (I for one would NOT.)
FYI- I am NOT a shadchan