Havesomeseichel:
of course we want and need people who are not proffesional shadchanim to get involved. That is exactly my point. the overwhelming majority of “non-proffesionals” quit not long after they start….
Of course when you make a shidduch you feel like a million bucks, but most people quit and never get there… and if they make one they will quit before they make their second……
I am NOT advocating paying a meeting fee (i actually it’s dumb and not prodcutive for the girls for all the reasons mentioned). I am advocating compensating whoever it was that got a girl to date #2/date #4.
Pay for the “service provided” after the service and you will have far far more people gettign involved and STAYING INVOLVED in the process of redding shidducim, and YES you will have a better chance of finding your bashert because will like to look out for those who appreciate their efforts.