Reply To: This week's Yated Shidduch Forum…

i’m not talking about after the shidduch is made… i want to know BEFORE anything is even red if it is RIGHT that a shadchan charges to MEET someone and then does nothing… the girl never hears from then again. ofcourse after making a shidduch you give them whatever they ask because they supplied you with a life parter and that is a major deal. the experiences i’ve had with “profeesional” (and there is a reason i put it in quotes…) shadchanim made me feel very negetively toward them… and i’m not an older sinlge i am considered to be young…. asking for money to be met with makes me (and other like me..) feel like another statistic.. another case.., and not like a person… i understand that there are probably a ton of Shadchanim that are fabulous but in my experience i feel really badly from them. and it’s such a shame because making shidduchim is really a huge mitzva and a chesed and not a business.

sorry for ranting but it’s a touchy subject lol 😉