APY: The current “societal norms and expectations” are all messed up and is the cause of all our problems.
That is exactly what i meant by age gap… current societal norms that dictate that 23 year old guys are dating 19 year old girls.
change that and you have solved the crisis. (B”H much progress has been made and shadchanim report that the stigma againgst boys dating girls thier own age or slightly older has been broken, as such they are easily able to redd shidduchim that a few years ago the mothers of boys would have hung up on them for suggesting.)
garnering tremendous amount of attention for slightly older girls will have that effect-hence my enocuraging the compensation for achivable results.