TMB: Hopefully down the road people will come to realize that compnesating the shadchan is no different than and other costs of the dating process. However at the present time i don’t think people are ready for that.
bennaishek: Those details are for each communtiy to see what works best for them… the idea being that date nuber four usually means it was a better idea than if it ended after date number one, and the shadchan should be compensated as such.