cedarhurst: What you are saying is correct. It can’t be enforced on anyone and the boys side will be the last to come on board.
I am simply laying out a model that has proved to effective on a COMMUNITY (see apy-arc)level.
Hard to argue with results.
I’m not sure what arc and apy disagree with, and i’m not sure why arc thinks i’m a duck when i am in no way shape or form even a shadchan….
For the record I made one shidduch in my life more than a decade ago and I haven’t redd a shidduch in probably 8 years. So nope, this isn’t about me trying to find a alternate source of income (in case that was your insinuation).
This is simply the most effective method to generate a tremendous amount of attention for the slightly older girls.
No More No Less
If anyone has any other ideas (that work) i’d be happy to promote them in the CR