Aries:
I agree, it serves a purpose in moderation. I don’t really see any harm in giving it to your kids in appropriate amounts, and I think it reinforces the message of responsible drinking.
RE weddings:
I have been at many many weddings and have never seen the behavior which is criticized- even when many guys were drunk. In fact, at the weddings where everyone was stoned, we often got compliments on how nice it was that nobody was drunk.