I do not know of any parent that dont let thier kids have ANY alchohol. Do you not let your kids have some kiddush wine? Do you not let your kids have a l’chaim? Do you not let your kids drink some beer whe by a sholom zochor per se?
Now you know of one — me.
My oldest is 17. Now I allow him to have a some wine by kiddush — but that’s only in the last year or so. The only other time I allow my kids (over bar/bas mitzvah) to have alcohol is on Pesach — and then diluted with grape juice.
I believe that I have been a positive role model for my kids on the responsible use of alcohol as I have *never* been drunk in my life. Neither has Eeees, for that matter — and our kids know it. And they know that if they go somewhere, they are not allowed to have alcohol.
Yes, we drink a little bit (usually some wine or liqueur — we don’t drink hard liquor) — but our kids see us using it in moderation and responsibly.
The Wolf