Reply To: Professional Shadchanim vs. Personal Shadchanim

There are Seforim that strongly criticize professional shadchanim (in general) for being manipulative and untruthful. I don’t have the citations from the meforshim at my fingertips and the moment, but the criticism is very real (and accurate).

The OP just indicated they bring unkind words. The specific criticisms I cited were my own examples. The same Seforim do say you must pay a shadchan for a successful shidduch. One does not contradict the other.