Im ain kemach ain torah just means that if you have no food, you cannot learn. If you are supported by your parents, in laws, Yeshiva, or wife, you are not in a situation where you have to steal, and you have fulfilled the Chazal.
I’m wondering why you think this is not stealing. If the parents/in laws will be forced to take on a second source of income, is that not stealing their time? If someone holds up a gun and asks for money, is that not considered stealing? The victim gave the money willingly…
That being said I am in no way opposed to Kollel or learning in general. But the way the Kollel system is today is set up for failure. What will happen when the next generation wants to marry Kollel? And how many girls wont want to “settle” and marry someone “not as frum” as their father? And if less and less people are working for a paycheck than how will any tzedakah organizations be able to continue doing what they are?
bombmaniac, agree completely.