Reply To: Questions when checking out a boy

one of the biggest problems is that in marriage the spouse (either one) can push the other’s buttons in a way no one else can. like a soldier preparing for war, until being shot at by live bullets you can’t know. conversely the spouse can make the other shine in a way never before known. (off thread comment: the crisis IMHO is due in part to valid shidduchim not being made because because try to figure it all out before agreeing to go out.)