in jewish and non jewish society, traditionally men brought Parnassa, and women brought up children.
If you are ready to change reality, unsure how many women will be there who would want to partner.
What is the problem of being a man?
If you cant buy her a Dinner now, how can you prove you are capable of handling Parnassa and supporting your family?
If you are not ready to take care of a wife and children, maybe you are not ready to date?