Since the guys get to date more they should pay more. After all they are not the ones sitting at home waiting for the phone to ring, right???????? Should the girls also have to pay for that privilege. Oh please, we already had this conversation on another thread.
I think one should always stay within their means. If you show off on the first date, you will be expected to keep up. Don’t be cheap and don’t be extravagant. Do something decent. Young men usually do not take a girl out to dinner on a first date exactly for that reason, that it could become very expensive. So if you can’t afford to do it each time, think of something fun or interesting you can do on a first date that is not expensive but does not make you look like you are stingy.
BTW, girls also feel bad when boys spend a lot of money on a first date and then they turn them down for a second. So I would suggest you keep it fun and not extravagant.