bored out of my mind? why is a date in a lounge boring? all i want to do is talk to the bochur and figure him out”
You want to “figure him out” on a date????? You cannot figure anyone out on a first date, and it is not the purpose of a date to do that. What are you – his date or his shrink? Use your dates to simply get to know someone. After that MAYBE you will figure him out, if you feel you must. Do you want him to spend the date trying to figure YOU out? (Guys, your job is much harder, I grant you that).