Sadly, this is yet another reason that there is a “shidduch crisis” and clearly it seems that most of the posters here are girls. You have to define what a lie is. Do you think even the shadchanim aren’t telling some white lies before and during the dating just to get things moving along? I can tell you that unless it’s something important or life altering, for example health issues or some serious indiscretions in your past, there’s nothing wrong with witholding info or bending the truth a bit, IN THE BEGINNING. At the end of the day if you’d have ALL the facts from the get go, I’m sure many happily married people today would never have gone out with each other. If not telling something right away is just till “we get to know each other and then I’ll tell the truth”, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. Most of the time when you already like someone you can be more forgiving.
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