bein hasdorim-
I think the issue at hand over here is boys demanding unrealistic things from girls.
No one is insinuating that anyone should give up on certain qualities that are important to them. Boys have the upper hand in this system so they are usually able to get what they ask for. I don’t think girls should have to settle either, but it is more likely that they will have to give up on things that are important to them.
Interesting… a boy can demand anything he wants, and he could get it.
A girl who had a few more items on her list besides male, alive and Jewish is considered picky and told to be realistic. Hello?????