Reply To: Leave the Guys Alone!

Many people have said that caring so much about looks isn’t a Jewish concept. This might be the case but I still don’t think you can be upset at the guys that this is what they want.

pumper

I’m sorry you feel that way but that’s not the guys fault. I’m not at all saying it’s yours but if a guy is looking for specific things there’s no reason he shouldn’t try to get it.

pet peeve

Perhaps our society has started focusing on the physical aspect more than usual. That doesn’t change the facts that looks are important to certain guys. And girls should by all means demand the gorgeous football player if that’s what they want. I think it goes both ways.

“b/c the main issue is not the guys getting what they want. the main problem is the encouragement of values that are the antithesis of what they allegedly stand for.”

This I’ll agree with. But it doesn’t change facts and doesn’t change my point that you can’t get upset at them for wanting certain things.

Ofcourse

I have spoken to a few shadchanim who say that both the girl and the boy have it hard. Not that one has more power over the other.

new2thescene

Wow. That story is crazy. Talk about shallow…