Of Course wrote: “I dont think youll find a Shadchan alive who will deny that the guys generally get girls who very much surpass the guys’ quality. The guys have been getting the better end of the deal for a long time now. Now you want girls to try h a r d e r??? What are the guys doing?
I don’t get this whole attitude. What does it mean that the girls surpass the guy’s quality. You are comparing apples and oranges. How can you say the guys are getting the better end of the deal. Whatever the “market” is reality. It’s not better or worse.
I am in my early 40’s and there are plenty of women whom I would like to date who have no interest in dating me. That’s life. But I certainly don’t think that guys are always getting the better part of the deal in shidduchim.